There's no doubt about it-breakups suck. But in the first few hours or days or weeks that follow, there's one important truth you need to recognize. Some things just can't and shouldn't be fixed, especially that loser who dumped you or forced you to dump him. It's over for a reason, and deep down inside you probably know what that reason is.
Just remember though, that any reasons you'll come up with are ultimately irrelevant. The harsh reality is that even if you have so many things in common, there's just one thing you're not in common with, and that is the quantity of love you have. Maybe yours is still overflowing but the others has just dried up. Think about this, the annoying thing that your ex did will never bother you again. I'm sure that your plan to get him back worked out in your head. I'm even sure that it worked out in some movie you saw. But your ex does not have the time to follow a movie script and you shouldn't either. Move on. Every moment of pain, weakness, and discomfort puts you in a position to choose how you will react and how you will alleviate your condition. Calling him doesn't make it better, it only pulls you back into the cycle of heartbreak. He is the past. You are the future. Messing up his life isn't the best revenge. It's getting on with yours and living it to the fullest. One of the suckiest and most frustrating facts of life is that sometimes relationships just end, often without reason. I truly believe that sometimes both men and women simply run out of love, even when there was a lot of it in the beginning. So many of us find ourselves saying "BUT HE WAS SO GREAT!" Yes, and the people who got on the Titanic thought they were going on vacation. Things changed and it's important to remember that they did. Every time you see him, you only make yourself vulnerable to further heartache. Do you really need further proof that he's getting on with his life without you? He was either partially or totally over it before you even knew it was going down. You weren't in the same relationship now. That should answer ALL your questions. The feeling that you have right now is actually fear. Fear of things being different than how you liked them, fear of never finding love again, fear of being alone, fear of having to fill your time differently. We're afraid of the unknown. At the end of the day, it's about whether YOU like yourself enough to face the reality that your romance wasn't working and realize that it wasn't giving you what you needed and deserved. Positive thought: There's just one guy out there who's looking for someone just like you. Someone who's going to love you as much as you love your ex or even more. Just have faith in DESTINY. Falling in love everyday is possible. You can love your work, love your friends and family more and you can even love every stray dog that crosses your path. HOWEVER, you have to learn how to love yourself and put yourself first before you will ever find the healthy, loving, and lasting relationship that you've been looking for.
---- Inspired with (I'ts called break up because I'ts broken)
Just remember though, that any reasons you'll come up with are ultimately irrelevant. The harsh reality is that even if you have so many things in common, there's just one thing you're not in common with, and that is the quantity of love you have. Maybe yours is still overflowing but the others has just dried up. Think about this, the annoying thing that your ex did will never bother you again. I'm sure that your plan to get him back worked out in your head. I'm even sure that it worked out in some movie you saw. But your ex does not have the time to follow a movie script and you shouldn't either. Move on. Every moment of pain, weakness, and discomfort puts you in a position to choose how you will react and how you will alleviate your condition. Calling him doesn't make it better, it only pulls you back into the cycle of heartbreak. He is the past. You are the future. Messing up his life isn't the best revenge. It's getting on with yours and living it to the fullest. One of the suckiest and most frustrating facts of life is that sometimes relationships just end, often without reason. I truly believe that sometimes both men and women simply run out of love, even when there was a lot of it in the beginning. So many of us find ourselves saying "BUT HE WAS SO GREAT!" Yes, and the people who got on the Titanic thought they were going on vacation. Things changed and it's important to remember that they did. Every time you see him, you only make yourself vulnerable to further heartache. Do you really need further proof that he's getting on with his life without you? He was either partially or totally over it before you even knew it was going down. You weren't in the same relationship now. That should answer ALL your questions. The feeling that you have right now is actually fear. Fear of things being different than how you liked them, fear of never finding love again, fear of being alone, fear of having to fill your time differently. We're afraid of the unknown. At the end of the day, it's about whether YOU like yourself enough to face the reality that your romance wasn't working and realize that it wasn't giving you what you needed and deserved. Positive thought: There's just one guy out there who's looking for someone just like you. Someone who's going to love you as much as you love your ex or even more. Just have faith in DESTINY. Falling in love everyday is possible. You can love your work, love your friends and family more and you can even love every stray dog that crosses your path. HOWEVER, you have to learn how to love yourself and put yourself first before you will ever find the healthy, loving, and lasting relationship that you've been looking for.
---- Inspired with (I'ts called break up because I'ts broken)
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